It is really hard to decide what my strengths are because I know that everything about my personality is not considered an attribute, although I would like to believe that. Everyone has different qualities that attract people to them or qualities that help them get ahead in life. Even the strongest person can agree that there is always room for improvement; everyone has one area where they slack and that is called a weakness. Strengths and weaknesses have the power to make or break a person that’s why it is important to identify them and use them to your advantage but also make them better.
I have three main strengths that I believe will always be good qualities to keep. The first is being a good listener, I use my listening skills to better understand people, with it I can connect where a person’s mentality derive from. I think that it works in my favor in most cases because if I am listening I am constantly learning about people, news, and current events. Another one of my strengths is keeping a positive attitude, I try to stay positive all the time and look at the brighter side of each situation. I try to keep the negativity as far from me as possible because negativity is contagious. I like to be the person that’s smiling on a rainy day. My favorite strength is that I am a very laid back person. I usually am very calm and collected if there is a controversial situation I always try to be the voice of reason. I don’t over react or try to turn my life into a soap opera.
As in any comparison we know they usually come in two’s, the good vs. the bad, positive vs. negative and in this case strengths come with weaknesses. One of my most prevalent weaknesses is punctuality. I have the tendency to be late all the time arriving to places late, giving in assignments late, and making decisions. People who know me well usually set a time for me different than everyone else so that I can arrive early. Another one of my weaknesses is speaking, I have trouble expressing what I feel or what I want. Mostly because I never want anyone to get in to my head and know what hurts me, silence is my defense mechanism. The last of my weaknesses is not doing what I say I will, I think it is very important to be someone of your word. If I say I am going to do something I should just do it, otherwise I am just a dreamer.
As in any comparison we know they usually come in two’s, the good vs. the bad, positive vs. negative and in this case strengths come with weaknesses. One of my most prevalent weaknesses is punctuality. I have the tendency to be late all the time arriving to places late, giving in assignments late, and making decisions. People who know me well usually set a time for me different than everyone else so that I can arrive early. Another one of my weaknesses is speaking, I have trouble expressing what I feel or what I want. Mostly because I never want anyone to get in to my head and know what hurts me, silence is my defense mechanism. The last of my weaknesses is not doing what I say I will, I think it is very important to be someone of your word. If I say I am going to do something I should just do it, otherwise I am just a dreamer.
The consequences to my strengths and weaknesses can be a huge set back in life. The consequence to my inability to speak about my feelings would cause me not to be acknowledged for opportunities that could help my career. My listening skills can work against me because sometimes I listen so much, trying to make sense out of everything instead of speaking and voicing my thoughts. I have noticed that many people who are comfortable speaking, can talk their way in and out of situations and usually get more opportunities. This is because everyone can get a sense of who they are and know the type of things they would qualify for. I think that my punctuality will have the biggest consequences because in the past I have learned that a person that is never on time is perceived as unreliable. It is a setback created by me and only affecting me because when I finally decide to get up and take charge and take control my opportunities would have expired.
I think that strengths and weaknesses either work together very well or are counterproductive together. For example one of my strengths is being laid back but my biggest weakness is punctuality because I am so laid back I take my time to do everything and end up late. I think what I need to do is meet somewhere in the middle where I can still keep what I consider positive traits but control it so that it is not a basis for weakness.
Wow Jari your essay is great! "Negativity is contagious" this was my favorite quote.
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